Young African American family - keeping love alive while parenting

Balancing Marriage and Parenting: Keeping Love Alive While You Raise Kids

Marriage Dynamics InstituteContentment, Marriage Health, Reconnecting, Uncategorized

Balancing marriage and parenting is not for the faint of heart. For most of us, bringing home our first child introduces a whole new kind of love into our lives. Holding that newborn baby for the first time, we know we’ll do whatever it takes to keep them safe and warm and happy. Yet we soon discover that bringing that little …

empty bird nest - reconnect during empty nest years

Reconnect with Your Spouse During the Empty Nest Years

Marriage Dynamics InstituteMarriage Health, Reconnecting, Uncategorized

A happily married friend recently shared that when her kids were growing up, she asked her husband, “What in the world are we going to do together when they leave?” They began brainstorming for activities they could do together. He loved to go fishing; she had no interest. She loved seeing plays, but they bored him to tears. He enjoyed …

Couple blaming each other - defensiveness

Is Your Defensiveness Hurting Your Marriage?

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Marriage Health, Uncategorized

Defensiveness is a natural reaction. Everyone has heard a cat hiss or a dog growl when they sense a threat. Maybe you’ve even been the unfortunate victim of a skunk’s smelly defense mechanism. The Indonesian mimic octopus has quite an impressive defense system. This remarkable creature fools potential predators by impersonating other animals or objects. It can change its shape, …

Woman rejects man's gift of a plastic heart - different love language

Are You and Your Spouse Speaking Different Love Languages?

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Marriage Health, Romance, Uncategorized

Do you have trouble understanding what your spouse needs to feel loved? As soon as we were old enough to understand it, most of us were probably taught some version of “Do unto others as you’d have done to you.” The Golden Rule, as we call it, is a wise biblical principle to keep in mind as we deal with …

Couple gardening - why maintenance is so good for your marriage

Why Regular Maintenance is Great for Your Marriage

Marriage Dynamics InstituteContentment, Marriage Health, Uncategorized

Our bodies require maintenance to stay healthy. Gardens need maintenance to grow. Cars need maintenance to run well. A business needs maintenance to be successful. Why should it be any different for marriages? Many couples have premarital counseling before tying the knot, which is great. But you’d never expect four or five workouts at age 22 to keep a person …

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Keep Your Marriage Running on All Cylinders

Marriage Dynamics InstituteMarriage Health, Uncategorized

Thoughts on oil changes and marriage… What do you make time for, even when life gets busy? Does routine car maintenance make the list? When there’s a lot going on, it can be more than a little inconvenient to get the oil changed in your vehicle (or to change it yourself, if you’re so inclined). But it’s one of those …

Photo of couple reading Bible beside lake - including God in marriage

When Three Isn’t a Crowd in Your Marriage | Marriage Dynamics Institute

MattFaith, Marriage Health, Uncategorized

Learning to Include God in Your Relationship You’ve probably heard it. Two’s company, and three’s a crowd. If someone says those words to you, you’ll probably get your feelings hurt. If you’re not up to snuff on idioms, it means if someone is having an A to B conversation, you can C your way out. In other words, they want …

Couple back to back - feeling regret about marriage

10 Things to Try if You Regret Getting Married

Marriage Dynamics InstituteContentment, Marriage Health, Uncategorized

Does this story sound familiar? You met the man or woman of your dreams. You went out for coffee or a meal and couldn’t believe how easy they were to talk to. The two of you began dating, and you felt so alive when you were with them. As time went on, you began to imagine what it would be …

Two guys talking - accountability

Work on Your Marriage Goals with an Accountability Partner

Marriage Dynamics InstituteGoals, Marriage Health, Uncategorized

How are you doing in your marriage? Every couple faces challenges, and may need outside help at times. One great idea is to take a reputable marriage course with a proven track record, which will equip you with practical strategies to keep your marriage healthy and strong. Another good strategy is finding a trustworthy accountability partner to walk alongside and …

Oneness in marriage - husband's hand over wife's hand

Lessons in Math and Marriage: How to Be Better Together

Melody MorrisMarriage Health, Selfishness, Uncategorized

When we marry, the Bible says that two become one. That oneness is one of the many beautiful blessings of marriage. Yet it is not always easy to maintain as we contend with our individual wants and needs…. Early spring in Chicago is usually quite chilly, especially when the wind is brisk. My husband and I had been married for …