Secrets to a Successful Marriage-Become a Better Spouse

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People aren’t perfect. So there’s no such thing as the perfect mate. But there are ways we can all improve, and learn how to become a better spouse.  Here are five things you can do every day that are pretty much guaranteed to make your spouse a little crazy…as in crazy in love with you. 1. Show RESPECT  First of …

Is It Possible to Fall Out of Love?

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Albert Einstein once said, “You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” No indeed. So if you’ve been “bitten by the love bug” or shot by one of “cupid’s” arrows, you may seem “head over heels” or even “love sick”. Researchers have discovered chemical reactions in the brain that account for such behavior. It seems that increased levels of the feel-good …

Dancing in the Minefields-Thoughts on Love and Commitment

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Almost 20 years ago, my husband and I moved to a country in Eastern Europe that had just gone through a war. Orientation to our adopted home included land mine recognition training.  So the first time I heard singer/songwriter Andrew Peterson’s “Dancing in the Minefields” I had a weird flashback. The song is about marriage. And while the first line of the …

How One Military Couple Beat the Odds

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All married couples face challenges and for those with one spouse (or both) in the military, those hurdles can seem insurmountable at times. Deborah Timson, Marriage Dynamics Institute’s executive director, understands this very well. Her husband is Bill Timson, who served for 9 1/2 years in the Marine Corps. Here’s their story: The Early Years Bill and Deborah met in …

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Criticism: An Enemy of Intimacy – Part 1

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The words we speak are powerful. You may be familiar with an illustration about bullying that has been widely circulated around the internet. A teacher instructed her students to take a piece of paper and crumple it, stomp on it, and really mess it up—everything short of ripping it. Then, she had them unfold the paper and try to smooth …

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Balancing Marriage and Parenting: Keeping Love Alive While You Raise Kids

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Balancing marriage and parenting is not for the faint of heart. For most of us, bringing home our first child introduces a whole new kind of love into our lives. Holding that newborn baby for the first time, we know we’ll do whatever it takes to keep them safe and warm and happy. Yet we soon discover that bringing that little …

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Reconnect with Your Spouse During the Empty Nest Years

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A happily married friend recently shared that when her kids were growing up, she asked her husband, “What in the world are we going to do together when they leave?” They began brainstorming for activities they could do together. He loved to go fishing; she had no interest. She loved seeing plays, but they bored him to tears. He enjoyed …

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Is Your Defensiveness Hurting Your Marriage?

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Defensiveness is a natural reaction. Everyone has heard a cat hiss or a dog growl when they sense a threat. Maybe you’ve even been the unfortunate victim of a skunk’s smelly defense mechanism. The Indonesian mimic octopus has quite an impressive defense system. This remarkable creature fools potential predators by impersonating other animals or objects. It can change its shape, …

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Are You and Your Spouse Speaking Different Love Languages?

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Do you have trouble understanding what your spouse needs to feel loved? As soon as we were old enough to understand it, most of us were probably taught some version of “Do unto others as you’d have done to you.” The Golden Rule, as we call it, is a wise biblical principle to keep in mind as we deal with …

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Why Regular Maintenance is Great for Your Marriage

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Our bodies require maintenance to stay healthy. Gardens need maintenance to grow. Cars need maintenance to run well. A business needs maintenance to be successful. Why should it be any different for marriages? Many couples have premarital counseling before tying the knot, which is great. But you’d never expect four or five workouts at age 22 to keep a person …