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The Joys of Marriage Maintenance

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If you are a home owner, you know about maintenance. Unless your house is newly constructed, and sometimes even if it is, something always needs repair. Or a little touch of paint.  Or a battery in the smoke detector. Or….whatever. And spring cleaning is a thing becauses houses get dirty. Once a year or so they need a good going-over …

Are you Phubbing Me?

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“What is phubbing?” you ask. Great question. Hold that thought. Now picture this. You are enjoying coffee with a friend and having a great conversation. Then you hear buzzing. And without saying a word your friend glances at their phone. Their expression changes and maybe they mumble “just a minute” and quickly type a text message. Then your friend sighs, …

What is love?

Real Love: What It Is—What It’s Not

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Got any special plans for Valentine’s Day this year? In this season, we often feel obligated to demonstrate feelings of love by purchasing things like candy and flowers, or even more expensive gifts.  And while there’s certainly nothing wrong with giving and receiving gifts, there’s a lot more to real love than hearts and flowers. Love is powerful. It is …

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Marriage Courses that Really Work

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A caterpillar hatches and eats non-stop for days. Then it spins a sac around its body and undergoes radical change, emerging in just a couple of weeks as a different creature. This transformation–from caterpillar to butterfly—is nothing short of a miracle. At Marriage Dynamics, we offer marriage courses that inspire transformation in marriage. What happens during a nine-week Dynamic Marriage …

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Hallmark or Havoc? Four Guidelines for a Post Holiday Checkup

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Christmas is one of the most romantic times of year. At least that’s how it appears on Hallmark holiday movies and all the recent knock-offs. The plots are similar. Key characters are lonely. But there is a prospect for romance, either new or rekindled. Then some great challenge threatens to end the would-be couple’s relationship. But in the course of …

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Make a Good Marriage Better: Ideas for the New Year

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Now that Santa is in the rearview, we get down to the business of making that list and checking it twice. “What list?” you may be asking. The list you are composing–mentally, electronically, or on paper–of your top priorities for this new year. So what’s on your list?  You might want to include one (or more) of these ideas to …

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Improve your Connection this Christmas

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Are you ready for Christmas?  Gifts bought? Wrapping done? Packages in the mail? It may seem like this extraordinary year has dragged on and on, and yet in other ways it has flown by. And now Christmas is almost here again. This season is all about connection. Because God connected with us in human form when he sent Jesus. And …

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Time-Out: Not Just for Teams and Toddlers!

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When was the last time you called time-out? Perhaps your team needed to regroup before a big play. Or your toddler refused to follow directions. Are there times when conversation with your spouse starts as a discussion but turns into a heated argument? Maybe you found yourself thinking. “Somebody needs to call time-out.” Relationship expert John Gottman suggests how a …

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Marriage Counseling or Marriage Intensive?

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When your marriage isn’t going well, should you look for marriage counseling? Or is it better to find a good marriage intensive, like a weekend marriage retreat? According to one veteran marriage therapist, both approaches serve useful purposes. But a marriage intensive can help speed up the counseling process. I tell my clients a marriage intensive will often allow them …

Offended? Forgiveness brings freedom.

Offended? Try These 5 Steps to Forgiveness

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Question: How do you respond when you feel offended? Do you assume the worst and turn the offense over and over and in your mind, replaying the incident and reliving the hurt? Do you catalogue other offenses committed by the person in question, adding fuel to your resentment? Maintaining healthy relationships requires a willingness to forgive when we are offended. …