No marriage is perfect. And if we are honest, sometimes we all wish our spouse would speak or behave differently. In a healthy relationship, a husband and wife can communicate these irritations or frustrations in ways that don’t tear each other down. When there is mutual love and respect, such conversations can bring about positive results. By comparison, when spouses …
Criticism: An Enemy of Intimacy – Part 1
The words we speak are powerful. You may be familiar with an illustration about bullying that has been widely circulated around the internet. A teacher instructed her students to take a piece of paper and crumple it, stomp on it, and really mess it up—everything short of ripping it. Then, she had them unfold the paper and try to smooth …
Is Your Defensiveness Hurting Your Marriage?
Defensiveness is a natural reaction. Everyone has heard a cat hiss or a dog growl when they sense a threat. Maybe you’ve even been the unfortunate victim of a skunk’s smelly defense mechanism. The Indonesian mimic octopus has quite an impressive defense system. This remarkable creature fools potential predators by impersonating other animals or objects. It can change its shape, …
Are You and Your Spouse Speaking Different Love Languages?
Do you have trouble understanding what your spouse needs to feel loved? As soon as we were old enough to understand it, most of us were probably taught some version of “Do unto others as you’d have done to you.” The Golden Rule, as we call it, is a wise biblical principle to keep in mind as we deal with …
Stop Trying to Clean Up During the Storm
Ever been caught unexpectedly in a severe storm? There aren’t many things more terrifying. What’s worse is when it hits your home, your sanctuary suffers as a result. Forbes recently published a list of some of the worst ever to hit the United States, and seeing what people have had to go through is jaw-dropping. During a storm, it’s essential …
Seven Tips to Help You Survive March Madness Together
Can love and basketball coexist? If you’ve seen the 2000 romantic movie Love & Basketball, you’d think so. The film, starring Sanaa Lathan and Omar Epps, shares the story of neighbors who pursue basketball careers and eventually fall in love. But in the middle of March, it may seem like the challenge is too much to overcome. They call it …
5 Ways to Stay Close When Travel Keeps You Apart
My husband has to be out of town a lot for work. How can we stay close and on top of things when he’s gone so often? If you or your spouse travel frequently for work, it can be a tricky thing for your marriage. Sure, we all like the benefits that come from a great income and successful career, …