Human beings really, really hate to lose. In economics, they call this concept loss aversion. Research shows that people feel worse about losing $10 than we feel good about finding $10 because we actually experience losses more intensely than we do gains. In other words, we tend to focus more on negative emotions and setbacks more than we do on …
Is Your Marriage in Crisis?
Sometimes couples are living in the middle of a marriage crisis, and one spouse doesn’t even know it’s happening. “My spouse just left and I had no idea she/he was so unhappy,” the caller says. “What do I do now?” The answer is simple, but not necessarily easy. Get help and make changes. Because just limping along and doing the …
Marriage Counseling or Marriage Intensive?
When your marriage isn’t going well, should you look for marriage counseling? Or is it better to find a good marriage intensive, like a weekend marriage retreat? According to one veteran marriage therapist, both approaches serve useful purposes. But a marriage intensive can help speed up the counseling process. I tell my clients a marriage intensive will often allow them …