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Loss Aversion and Marriage: Simple Ways to be a Winner

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Marriage Health, Reconnecting

Human beings really, really hate to lose. In economics, they call this concept loss aversion. Research shows that people feel worse about losing $10 than we feel good about finding $10 because we actually experience losses more intensely than we do gains.  In other words, we tend to focus more on negative emotions and setbacks more than we do on …

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Is Your Marriage in Crisis?

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Hope, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Intensive

Sometimes couples are living in the middle of a marriage crisis, and one spouse doesn’t even know it’s happening. “My spouse just left and I had no idea she/he was so unhappy,” the caller says. “What do I do now?” The answer is simple, but not necessarily easy. Get help and make changes. Because just limping along and doing the …

Unhappy couple considers options for marriage help

Marriage Counseling or Marriage Intensive?

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Connection, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Health, Marriage Intensive, Reconnecting

When your marriage isn’t going well, should you look for marriage counseling? Or is it better to find a good marriage intensive, like a weekend marriage retreat? According to one veteran marriage therapist, both approaches serve useful purposes. But a marriage intensive can help speed up the counseling process. I tell my clients a marriage intensive will often allow them …