Couple separated by wall - criticism

Criticism: An Enemy of Intimacy – Part 1

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Marriage Health, Uncategorized

The words we speak are powerful. You may be familiar with an illustration about bullying that has been widely circulated around the internet. A teacher instructed her students to take a piece of paper and crumple it, stomp on it, and really mess it up—everything short of ripping it. Then, she had them unfold the paper and try to smooth …

Couple blaming each other - defensiveness

Is Your Defensiveness Hurting Your Marriage?

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Marriage Health, Uncategorized

Defensiveness is a natural reaction. Everyone has heard a cat hiss or a dog growl when they sense a threat. Maybe you’ve even been the unfortunate victim of a skunk’s smelly defense mechanism. The Indonesian mimic octopus has quite an impressive defense system. This remarkable creature fools potential predators by impersonating other animals or objects. It can change its shape, …

Woman rejects man's gift of a plastic heart - different love language

Are You and Your Spouse Speaking Different Love Languages?

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Marriage Health, Romance, Uncategorized

Do you have trouble understanding what your spouse needs to feel loved? As soon as we were old enough to understand it, most of us were probably taught some version of “Do unto others as you’d have done to you.” The Golden Rule, as we call it, is a wise biblical principle to keep in mind as we deal with …

Couple talking - know your spouse

How Well Do You Know Your Spouse?

Matt Communication, Marriage Health

Whatever else you may know, be sure you know your spouse…. While more people than ever are earning bachelor’s degrees, the U.S Census Bureau reports only about two percent of the American population holds an earned doctorate. That’s a pretty small number of people who are either dedicated or crazy enough to jump through all of the hoops required and …

holding hands - staying united during marital disagreements

Marital Disagreements – Don’t Air Your Dirty Laundry in Public

Matt Communication, Marriage Health, Patience

Know the right time and place to tackle marital disagreements. Pop quiz: What’s one of the most awkward things to endure? Is it: Accidentally telling your boss “I love you” before you get off the phone. Having someone point out to you that you’re pants are unzipped. Having someone point out that you forgot to wear pants. Watching a married …

Man carrying boxes - how to help your spouse when they need it

Is Your Spouse Stressed Out? Five Ways to Help

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Marriage Health

It’s vital in a marriage to help your spouse when they are overwhelmed—even if they don’t know how to ask for help. You know when you pull into the garage and you’ve got a lot of groceries to carry inside? You don’t want to have to come back out, so you try to take everything to the house at once. What …