Do you ever wonder why so many couples make it through twenty-five, or thirty or even forty years of marriage and then call it quits? “Gray divorce” usually refers to baby boomer couples who split up after a long marriage. And while the divorce rate in the United States has fallen slightly over the past twenty years, divorces among those …
Anniversary Celebration Ideas
How do you and your spouse like to celebrate your anniversary? Could you use some fresh anniversary celebration ideas? You don’t have to spend a lot of money or make every anniversary a huge event. Sometimes that’s not possible or even appropriate. But committing yourself to another person for life is a big deal, and your marriage is worth celebrating. …
The Gift of a Strong Marriage (Part 1) — Fulfillment
People get married for lots of reasons. But according to a telephone survey conducted by the Pew Research Center, the number one reason people marry is love. Shocker. Reasons two and three are also unremarkable. People marry because they want to make a lifelong commitment. And they marry for companionship. No surprises there. Human beings are created in the image …
Four Ways to Support Your Spouse in Tough Times
Ever been caught unexpectedly in a severe storm? There aren’t many things more terrifying. Even if you are not physically harmed by the wind or high water, the long term after-effects of a major storm can derail your life as you deal with damage to home and property. Forbes recently published a list of some of the worst storms ever …
One Thing You Can Do to Improve Your Marriage Right Now
Recently I flew to visit my mother and took advantage of free on board wi-fi to catch up on emails. My husband was traveling in Africa, and we connected by Face Time just long enough for me to tell him I was on a plane and would try to reach him later. I looked at my phone, and felt incredibly …
Four Good Reasons to Pray Together
Pray together. It’s kind of a crazy idea when you think about it. The Creator of the Universe invites us into a conversation. We talk, and Almighty hears. We listen, and God has messages for us. Prayer is both intimate and powerful, and inviting God into your marriage relationship through prayer is full of possibilities. So while there are lots of …
Secrets to a Successful Marriage-Become a Better Spouse
People aren’t perfect. So there’s no such thing as the perfect mate. But there are ways we can all improve, and learn how to become a better spouse. Here are five things you can do every day that are pretty much guaranteed to make your spouse a little crazy…as in crazy in love with you. 1. Show RESPECT First of …
Is It Possible to Fall Out of Love?
Albert Einstein once said, “You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” No indeed. So if you’ve been “bitten by the love bug” or shot by one of “cupid’s” arrows, you may seem “head over heels” or even “love sick”. Researchers have discovered chemical reactions in the brain that account for such behavior. It seems that increased levels of the feel-good …
Dancing in the Minefields-Thoughts on Love and Commitment
Almost 20 years ago, my husband and I moved to a country in Eastern Europe that had just gone through a war. Orientation to our adopted home included land mine recognition training. So the first time I heard singer/songwriter Andrew Peterson’s “Dancing in the Minefields” I had a weird flashback. The song is about marriage. And while the first line of the …
Criticism: An Enemy of Intimacy – Part 1
The words we speak are powerful. You may be familiar with an illustration about bullying that has been widely circulated around the internet. A teacher instructed her students to take a piece of paper and crumple it, stomp on it, and really mess it up—everything short of ripping it. Then, she had them unfold the paper and try to smooth …