Multiply Your Healthy Marriage Legacy

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCelebration, Faith, Giving, Gratitude, Marriage Health

  A legacy is something passed from one generation to the next. Often, we think of legacy in financial terms. But legacy is about more than just money. Over the past 25 years, generations of couples have participated in marriage courses and workshops offered through Marriage Dynamics Institute. And as lives and relationships change—as couples find joy, meaning and purpose …

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Time-Out: Not Just for Teams and Toddlers!

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Conflict, Connection

When was the last time you called time-out? Perhaps your team needed to regroup before a big play. Or your toddler refused to follow directions. Are there times when conversation with your spouse starts as a discussion but turns into a heated argument? Maybe you found yourself thinking. “Somebody needs to call time-out.” Relationship expert John Gottman suggests how a …

Unhappy couple considers options for marriage help

Marriage Counseling or Marriage Intensive?

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Connection, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Health, Marriage Intensive, Reconnecting

When your marriage isn’t going well, should you look for marriage counseling? Or is it better to find a good marriage intensive, like a weekend marriage retreat? According to one veteran marriage therapist, both approaches serve useful purposes. But a marriage intensive can help speed up the counseling process. I tell my clients a marriage intensive will often allow them …

Offended? Forgiveness brings freedom.

Offended? Try These 5 Steps to Forgiveness

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Faith, Forgiveness, Hope, Humility, Intimacy, Marriage Health, Reconnecting, When Life is Difficult

Question: How do you respond when you feel offended? Do you assume the worst and turn the offense over and over and in your mind, replaying the incident and reliving the hurt? Do you catalogue other offenses committed by the person in question, adding fuel to your resentment? Maintaining healthy relationships requires a willingness to forgive when we are offended. …

Self care is both good for you and your marriage.

Self-Care: Good for You and Your Marriage

Marriage Dynamics InstituteConnection, Marriage Health, Quality Time, Time Management

When you hear the words self-care what comes to mind? Perhaps you envision an aromatherapy candle burning, soft music, and a massage. Maybe you think of an early morning run, a quiet walk in the park, or a Saturday afternoon curled up with a good book. Self-care is the idea of taking responsibility for your own physical, mental, and emotional …

You can move forward even when the world is in limbo.

Living in Limbo but Still Moving Forward

Marriage Dynamics InstituteConflict, Connection, Faith, Gratitude, When Life is Difficult

Simple things—like going to the grocery store or spending time with friends—may seem more complicated these days. Depending on where you live, stores and restaurants may be operating at limited capacity with curbside service or takeout only options. Businesses you rely on may have closed temporarily, or for good. If you have been to the doctor lately, you probably had …

Don't wait. Celebrate. Special days matter.

Don’t Wait. Celebrate!

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCelebration, Date Night, Holidays, When Life is Difficult

People are finding creative ways to celebrate special events these days. Almost eight-year-old Caleb knew he could not have a birthday party because of social distancing. Caleb loves jeeps. So his mom asked jeep-owning friends to drive by their house on Caleb’s birthday and surprise her son. The request circulated widely. Several days later, more than 300 jeeps paraded down …

Just do the next right thing

Do the Next Right Thing: Good Advice When Life is Difficult

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Conflict, Connection, When Life is Difficult

  Do the right thing, and then do the next right thing, and that will lead you to the next right thing after that.     -Michael J. Fox This advice comes from a beloved American actor waging a very public battle with Parkinson’s disease. Versions of this quote are credited to a variety of coaches, speakers and authors from C.S. …

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Pandemic and the Unexpected Gift

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommunication, Gifts, Quality Time, Reconnecting, When Life is Difficult

Pandemic.  At the risk of stating the obvious, we are living through unusual days. No matter what part of the country you are in, if you listen to or read any news at all, you are aware that the world is more than a little chaotic right now. At the very least, there is much uncertainty. And no one really …

What kind of legacy will your marriage leave?

The Gift of A Strong Marriage (Part 3) Legacy

Marriage Dynamics InstituteCommitment, Faith, Family, Hope, Loss, Marriage Health, When Life is Difficult

Legacy is often thought of in financial terms. It’s the money or the property or the family heirlooms left behind when someone dies. And while that is true,  legacy is not always something you can hold in your hand. Because legacy is what you pass down to those who come after you. That might include money and property, but it …