Question: How do you respond when you feel offended? Do you assume the worst and turn the offense over and over and in your mind, replaying the incident and reliving the hurt? Do you catalogue other offenses committed by the person in question, adding fuel to your resentment? Maintaining healthy relationships requires a willingness to forgive when we are offended. …
Self-Care: Good for You and Your Marriage
When you hear the words self-care what comes to mind? Perhaps you envision an aromatherapy candle burning, soft music, and a massage. Maybe you think of an early morning run, a quiet walk in the park, or a Saturday afternoon curled up with a good book. Self-care is the idea of taking responsibility for your own physical, mental, and emotional …
The Gift of A Strong Marriage (Part 3) Legacy
Legacy is often thought of in financial terms. It’s the money or the property or the family heirlooms left behind when someone dies. And while that is true, legacy is not always something you can hold in your hand. Because legacy is what you pass down to those who come after you. That might include money and property, but it …
Running Together into 2020
Have you ever seen a three-legged race? Teams of two people tie one leg to the other person’s leg and then take off running together on what looks like three legs. It’s awkward at best. And kind of silly. But after a few clumsy steps, it’s possible for two people who are tied to each other to cooperate and race …
Why #GivingTuesday Matters for Marriages in Crisis
#GivingTuesday provides an opportunity to support things you value. Causes that are important. Marriage Dynamics Institute exists to support marriage, which is the most intimate of human relationships. Marriage is beautiful. But it’s also challenging. And even the best relationships require tune ups and tweaks. They need to be nourished along the way to become strong and resilient, able …
Grateful for the past—Anticipating the future at MDI
An open letter from our Executive Director: Fall classes are winding down, and we have one more A New Beginning workshop on this year’s calendar. It’s hard to believe, but very soon we’ll say goodbye to 2019 and launch into a new year. So much has happened! Marriage Dynamics celebrated 25 years of ministry this year. Recently, I sat down with our …
Gratitude: It’s Good for your Marriage
‘Tis the season for gratitude, aka Thanksgiving. And traditionally, Thanksgiving is marked by gathering around the holiday table with family and friends. (And watching football games on television. While enjoying another piece of pie.) Hopefully, in the midst of all the food and fun, we take time to give thanks for our blessings. Because Thanksgiving is all about gratitude. But …
The Gift of a Strong Marriage (Part 2) — Stability
When you decide to get married, you start making plans. And after you marry, you keep making plans. But you know what they say. Life is what happens while you are making plans. My husband and I had a five year plan when we married. We knew what we wanted to do and where we wanted to be. And we …
Communication: You Can’t Have a Great Marriage Without It
You can stay married – maybe even for a long time. You can raise happy, healthy children. And your life may appear successful. Others may see you and want what you have. But you know the truth. At home when all the kids are in bed—or grown and gone—and it’s just you and your spouse… are you lonely? Many couples …
Don’t Let These Marriage Misconceptions Derail Your Relationship
Before getting married, most of us believe we have some idea of what makes a marriage successful. Consciously or subconsciously, we have formed opinions as we’ve made observations and absorbed information from other people, books, the internet, TV, or other sources. Unfortunately, some popular beliefs about marriage aren’t accurate. Some may contain a bit of truth, but they are not …