couple hoding hands at Christmas

Improve your Connection this Christmas

Marriage Dynamics Institute Christmas, Communication, Connection, Date Night, Holidays, Marriage Health, Quality Time, Romance

Are you ready for Christmas?  Gifts bought? Wrapping done? Packages in the mail? It may seem like this extraordinary year has dragged on and on, and yet in other ways it has flown by. And now Christmas is almost here again. This season is all about connection. Because God connected with us in human form when he sent Jesus. And …

Multiply Your Healthy Marriage Legacy

Marriage Dynamics Institute Celebration, Faith, Giving, Gratitude, Marriage Health

  A legacy is something passed from one generation to the next. Often, we think of legacy in financial terms. But legacy is about more than just money. Over the past 25 years, generations of couples have participated in marriage courses and workshops offered through Marriage Dynamics Institute. And as lives and relationships change—as couples find joy, meaning and purpose …

time-out

Time-Out: Not Just for Teams and Toddlers!

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Conflict, Connection

When was the last time you called time-out? Perhaps your team needed to regroup before a big play. Or your toddler refused to follow directions. Are there times when conversation with your spouse starts as a discussion but turns into a heated argument? Maybe you found yourself thinking. “Somebody needs to call time-out.” Relationship expert John Gottman suggests how a …

Unhappy couple considers options for marriage help

Marriage Counseling or Marriage Intensive?

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Connection, Marriage Counseling, Marriage Health, Marriage Intensive, Reconnecting

When your marriage isn’t going well, should you look for marriage counseling? Or is it better to find a good marriage intensive, like a weekend marriage retreat? According to one veteran marriage therapist, both approaches serve useful purposes. But a marriage intensive can help speed up the counseling process. I tell my clients a marriage intensive will often allow them …

Offended? Forgiveness brings freedom.

Offended? Try These 5 Steps to Forgiveness

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Conflict, Connection, Criticism, Faith, Forgiveness, Hope, Humility, Intimacy, Marriage Health, Reconnecting, When Life is Difficult

Question: How do you respond when you feel offended? Do you assume the worst and turn the offense over and over and in your mind, replaying the incident and reliving the hurt? Do you catalogue other offenses committed by the person in question, adding fuel to your resentment? Maintaining healthy relationships requires a willingness to forgive when we are offended. …

Self care is both good for you and your marriage.

Self-Care: Good for You and Your Marriage

Marriage Dynamics Institute Connection, Marriage Health, Quality Time, Time Management

When you hear the words self-care what comes to mind? Perhaps you envision an aromatherapy candle burning, soft music, and a massage. Maybe you think of an early morning run, a quiet walk in the park, or a Saturday afternoon curled up with a good book. Self-care is the idea of taking responsibility for your own physical, mental, and emotional …

You can move forward even when the world is in limbo.

Living in Limbo but Still Moving Forward

Marriage Dynamics Institute Conflict, Connection, Faith, Gratitude, When Life is Difficult

Simple things—like going to the grocery store or spending time with friends—may seem more complicated these days. Depending on where you live, stores and restaurants may be operating at limited capacity with curbside service or takeout only options. Businesses you rely on may have closed temporarily, or for good. If you have been to the doctor lately, you probably had …

A single rose blooming serves as a reminder to hold on tight to the one you love.

Hold on Tight to Each Other

Melody Morris Commitment, Communication, Connection, Loss, When Life is Difficult

My husband and I were taking our evening stroll. We like to walk and talk and hold hands. Because we are relatively new to the neighborhood, these daily walks provide opportunities to chat and get to know people better. And since Ken is in the process of tidying up the landscaping around our home, so he enjoys discovering which varieties …

Don't wait. Celebrate. Special days matter.

Don’t Wait. Celebrate!

Marriage Dynamics Institute Celebration, Date Night, Holidays, When Life is Difficult

People are finding creative ways to celebrate special events these days. Almost eight-year-old Caleb knew he could not have a birthday party because of social distancing. Caleb loves jeeps. So his mom asked jeep-owning friends to drive by their house on Caleb’s birthday and surprise her son. The request circulated widely. Several days later, more than 300 jeeps paraded down …

Just do the next right thing

Do the Next Right Thing: Good Advice When Life is Difficult

Marriage Dynamics Institute Communication, Conflict, Connection, When Life is Difficult

  Do the right thing, and then do the next right thing, and that will lead you to the next right thing after that.     -Michael J. Fox This advice comes from a beloved American actor waging a very public battle with Parkinson’s disease. Versions of this quote are credited to a variety of coaches, speakers and authors from C.S. …